Something brought to my attention today that made me think about life, love and relationships. Searching for new information pertaining to love and relationship, I decided to watch the latest program titled Wife Swap. At first, the title gave me the wrong impression, but as I watched a few of the programs, I saw a plan in the making.
The program makes people think about their current situation. Families agree to switch lives in the program, thus following each household rules and style of living. The program helps the people to see what they are failing to do in the relationship to make it work; at the same time, it helps them to see what type of people they are and why their mate is at the end of the road.
At first I thought, you could not get me to agree to this type of therapy, but as I watched the program, I thought what a genius that came up with this notion.
The program brings many things to light. One program illustrated a homemaker bonded to a man with chauvinistic attitudes, and the other family illustrated reversal roles in the relationship arrangement. The man keeps up the home while the woman worked and came home and waited on hand and foot by her mate. The roles switched and the couple later saw what they needed to do to make their relationship more productive.
This concept constructed by a genius, was a great idea. Maybe if families switched roles they may see that the grass is not always greener on the other side.
Families often take each other for granted, which leads to failure or breakdown in the relationship. Thus, thinking the grass is greener in another pasture is only setting your self up for a fall. Families work in harmony not against the other. Thus, a man, woman and children working to progress in a relationship or family unit are a solid family from beginning to the parting of death claims their love.
The world philosophers have from of old, filled the minds of people with unproductive thinking. The concept that one person in a relationship is boss over the other is one of the bad influences and examples sent across the world, and this concept causes harm. At work, you have bosses. At home you have two loving people working together to make love grow and stand firm. There are no bosses in relationships, rather there is a joint commitment that both will work equally to make a relationship work.
Love often fails when the love is impure. In other words, when emotions, theories, opinions, desires and impulses make up the relationship, thus true love does not exist. This type of relationship concepts love as a toy, or superficial mechanism, rather than a realness of life and love…
Therefore, when committing to love and relationship it is wise to put all those wise tales aside and listen to the innerness of your self and your mate. Two people that know what they want out of life will work harder to reach their goals.
If a couple, has no idea, what they want from life how can they expect to know what they want out of love and relationship? Thus, learning each other is part of growing, but learning to know you is part of living and loving throughout your life.
The folk tale or idea that you don’t know what you got until it is gone is one of the better concepts ever produced by humankind. Sometimes it takes an ending for one mate to see that the relationship was not as terrible as they thought.
Fantasies are another issue that burns out relationships. People often utilize fantasies as a tool for keeping the sparks flying in a relationship, however history of relationships have proven that inappropriate fantasies cause harm. Fantasies when overworked will lead to adultery, fornication outside of a relationship, and has proven to lead to violence and murder. Therefore, building a relationship and utilizing fantasy as the ultimate tool to make love grow will only prove sour.
Therefore, putting your self in someone else’s shoes may help you to see what you need to change to make your relationship work.